Being Sad

Some days I think you just need to be sad.  I have really been trying to move on and get my life back to where it was before dad died, but that is hard when he was such a big part of it.

I listened to the song that we used in the video at his funeral on the way to work this morning.  Again, sometimes you just need to feel sad for a minute.  My only alone minutes are in the car.  (Never Alone by Lady Antebellum and Jim Brickman).

Never alone
I¹ll be in every beat of your heart
When you face the unknown
Wherever you fly
This isn’t goodbye
My love will follow you stay with you
You’re never alone

On Saturday my son was out mowing our back lawn. It had been a few weeks so it was really long.  There was a nice warm breeze in the air and you could see it rippling across the grass.  I went out and stood in the middle of it and watched the grass and felt the breeze blow on my face and felt the warmth of my dad there for a minute.  I looked at our pear tree that he chain sawed the top off a few summers ago. (Don’t know why he did it.  It looks ridiculous.) It makes me smile every time I see it.

This weekend was the big BYU vs University of Utah football game.  Biggest rivalry game in Utah.  It was the first one my dad hasn’t watched in 50+ years.  It made me sad.  I had to go in the other room while my husband watched it.

Sometimes I think it is the little things that are harder than the big ones.  He’s dead.  That is a big one.  I think I have come to terms with that.  But when I want to call and talk to him and can’t, that is the hardest.

Friends of my parents stopped by a few weeks ago while my mom was visiting.  We had a nice dinner with them.  Before they left the husband gave me a huge hug.  I told him it felt just like the hugs dad gave me.  He hugged me tighter and longer.  It made me cry.

I think the hugs are in the top 3 things I miss most.


4 thoughts on “Being Sad

  1. Its been quite some time since my Dad passed away and my mum before him. The wonderful thing was Dad was able to get to know my now husband and give me away at the wedding. Just less than a year later he passed away. It was a miracle he was able to be at the wedding and come on holiday with us as his condition meant he was unable to be operated on. Wish mum could have met Robert. I know they both have peace now.

  2. I was so happy that I got married before dad died. At first I didn’t want him to walk me down the isle. But now I am glad I did. I cried and cried because I knew our time was getting shorter. It makes me sad to think about all the things he is missing out on as well as all the things we are missing out on without him here.

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